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Pre-Retirement Planning Guide Part One: Budget
Part 1: Develop a Budget
Once you are truly good and retired – no phase-out, no gig jobs, no income-earning hobbies – most people end up living on a “fixed income.” While that income may fluctuate somewhat based on cost-of-living increases and investment gains, those increases may be few and far between. What you really need to work on before you retire is a “fixed budget.”
A fixed budget is a line-item record of your living expenses, from housing and insurance to food and utilities to transportation and healthcare. Bear in mind that those are not exactly “fixed expenses” either. Seasonal changes and inflation can swell prices on household goods and insurance rates, while higher interest rates impact auto purchases and credit card debt. These are all factors a pre-retiree needs to consider when developing a post-retirement budget.
Retirement Income
However, the first step in developing a budget isn’t to add up your expenses, it’s to figure out how much money your retirement income sources will provide. Many folks pull from three basic sources of retirement income: Social Security, a pension, and personal savings – comprised of savings accounts, employer-sponsored retirement plans, and an investment portfolio. Bear in mind that with a few exceptions (e.g., savings accounts, Roth IRA), you’ll need to factor in paying taxes on distributions from these accounts during retirement. Add up how much post-tax income you will likely receive each month/year in retirement.
Retirement Budget
Depending on your retirement goals, you may need less or even more income than you earned while still working. One way to break down anticipated retirement expenses is to categorize them as essential (e.g., food, housing, transportation) and discretionary expenses (e.g., travel, entertainment). Calculate a monthly total with considerations for other outlying expenses, like paying for auto or home insurance and property taxes once a year to take advantage of discount savings.
Also factor in periodic expenses for home and auto maintenance. In addition to your monthly budget, consider how much you should retain in a liquid savings account for emergencies, such as the deductible for a major auto repair to replace the roof on your home or the occasional big-ticket appliance.
Reconcile Income with Expenses
Next, compare the total of your income sources with your total budgetary needs. Bear in mind that if your income comes up short, you have a few options. You can create a plan to reduce your essential expenses, perhaps by selling your home and moving into a smaller, cheaper-to-maintain home. You may want to take another look at your discretionary expenses and decide to cut out country club fees or travel abroad. It is possible to enjoy retirement while playing golf or tennis at public facilities and vacationing at the extraordinary locations that America has to offer.
One retirement strategy is to ensure that all of your essential living expenses in retirement will be covered by guaranteed income sources, such as Social Security, an employer pension, and an annuity. For discretionary expenses, plan to pay for them via an allocation of your retirement assets to other investments that are not guaranteed, but offer growth potential. In fact, you may be more inclined to invest these other retirement assets more aggressively when confident that your essentials are covered through guaranteed income sources.
Income Strategies
One of the more common ways retirees draw income is to simply spend down their assets. This basically means withdrawing however much you need each month above and beyond what you receive in Social Security and pension benefits. Bear in mind that if the amount you withdraw each year is too high, you risk running out of money in the later stages of retirement.
Some investors cap how much they withdraw each year at about 3 percent to 5 percent and adjust their budget to meet this limit. In doing so, they can ensure the rest of their investment portfolio has the opportunity to continue growing. To keep up with annual increases in the cost of living, you may want to allocate an equity component in your portfolio to allow for income growth opportunities throughout retirement. However, be aware that stocks can have down years, so that 3 percent to 5 percent distribution might deliver less income when the market is volatile.
You also may consider ways to increase your retirement income. Developing a retirement plan a decade or so before you actually retire will give you time to max out your annual retirement account contributions and perhaps even create some form of passive income to help supplement retirement expenses. Many pre-retirees plan ahead by creating passive income sources, such as rental property or royalty payments on writing, music, or a patent on intellectual property.
The Social Security Caveat
Currently, the trust fund that supplements Social Security benefits is projected to fund 100 percent of total scheduled benefits until 2033. Thereafter, the fund will be able to supplement only 79 percent of scheduled benefits. The upcoming election is important for a lot of reasons, but what is currently under the radar is the need to reform how benefits are funded. The options include reducing benefits, increasing the retirement age, allowing people to invest their account funds privately, and increasing or removing the Social Security tax cap on individual wages ($168,600 in 2024).
Because the direction of Social Security reform is unknown, pre-retirees need to work harder to create their own income sources. While the federal government has the authority to make changes to shore up Social Security solvency, individuals, by contrast, have less flexibility to plug holes in their retirement income plans.
Part 2: Pre-Retirement Planning Guide
There are many steps to planning for retirement. Some are legal and financial, some are about communication, and some involve introspection – thinking about your life now and how you want to live the rest of it.
By the time most people start thinking about a retirement plan, they have a pretty decent foundation. Perhaps its assets – a house, savings, a retirement portfolio. Perhaps a strong social network comprised of family, friends, and colleagues. Furthermore, most folks have a sense of who they are, what they like, and what they don’t like. Some people may have all three of those factors in hand, while others have just one or two. What’s good to remember is that once you hit a certain age, you have a lot of the knowledge and logistics in place to create a sound retirement plan. And that’s a good place to start.
This article is Part 2 of a two-part primer on pre-retirement planning. The first article previewed the first three steps: 1.) Budgeting; 2.) Setting goals; and 3.) Finances. The following is an overview of the subsequent steps.
Health
The good news is that Medicare will cover many of your most basic healthcare needs in retirement. However, if you have extensive medical problems, you could be on the hook for hundreds of thousands of dollars. It is a good idea to earmark a separate funding source for potential medical expenses, such as a Health Savings Account (HSA). You can only fund one of these until you qualify for Medicare at age 65; hence the importance of pre-planning years in advance.
Long-term care is even more difficult to plan for because you might not need it. This is one of those high-cost scenarios best covered by insurance. However, be aware that long-term care insurance policies typically provide a limited per diem rate, which might not cover the full cost of caregiving. Therefore, you should keep some assets in reserve in case you need it for caregiving later. Another aspect of your health plan involves end-of-life decisions – make sure you communicate them to your loved ones.
Estate Plan
Another gift to loved ones is to leave them a roadmap of what to do with your assets after you pass away. At the very least, complete a will with instructions. And don’t wait until you retire; the burden of determining how to manage your assets is just as egregious if you pass away before retirement.
While there are financial components to your estate plan, there are logistical ones as well. Imagine if you (and your spouse/partner) both passed away suddenly in a car wreck. Is your house in order? Not only should you organize your financial house so loved ones can find your legal documents, but you also get the physical house in which you reside. Now is the time to think about downsizing and decluttering. Go through the closets, the attic, the garage and get rid of things you no longer need. Some of it your children or friends might love to have, some would make valuable contributions to local organizations, and some of it is just junk. Part of your estate plan should be to make it easier for your children to manage your property – and all the things in it – after you’re gone.
Legacy Plan
Your legacy is how you want people to remember you after you die. You can create your own legacy in different ways. For one, through philanthropy. If you expect to outlive your assets, develop a legal plan for giving. This could include to your children or grandchildren and/or charitable contributions to causes that represent your passions and priorities.
But your legacy is more personal than that. As you get older, you will lose people in your life, and you could die unexpectedly. Your pre-retirement plan should consider how you can repair and strengthen relationships with people in your life with whom you are estranged or not on easy terms. After all, how they remember you will also be part of your legacy.
Find Your Raison d’Etre
If you live a long life, you will lose friends. You may lose your spouse or life partner. You may lose siblings and even children before you pass on. How will you feel/survive/bear it? Translated from French, your “raison d’etre” means “your reason to be.” More than any other time in your life – when all your goals, dreams and relationships were ahead of you – in retirement you or your spouse may end up alone. It is vitally important that you think about and figure out what things make you happy, and are sustainable to keep making you happy should you outlive loved ones or even suffer from health problems. This is not an easy task, and a later article in this series will offer ideas on how to approach it.
The next seven Financial Planning articles in this series will discuss in more detail each of the steps previewed in this pre-retirement planning guide.
Part 3: Develop a Financial Plan
We all have a different vision for our golden years – and we are also on individual financial tracks to meet our financial goals for retirement. But if you’re not where you think you should be by age 50, consider ways to step up your efforts. Some ideas frequently recommended by financial planners include the following:
Reduce Your Expenses
You could give up some streaming services and your Friday night out with friends, but those are not likely to be impactful moves. Besides, let’s face it, those will be important entertainment and social outlets once you are in retirement, so you might not want to give them up now. A better move would be to reduce big-ticket expenses. These include your home (mortgage payments, insurance, taxes, maintenance), your car/s (payments, insurance, taxes, maintenance), tuition payments, and expensive vacations.
If it helps, break down these expenses into purposes to put them in perspective. A home provides shelter. A car gets you from point A to point B. Tuition is to educate your children and set them on a course for a meaningful life. Vacations enhance your daily life, expose you to new places, and help you bond with loved ones. Now ask yourself this: Can you achieve those four functions with a less expensive home, car, college, or vacation destination? It would be tough to say no.
Once you’ve identified these savings opportunities for a more financially secure retirement, it’s up to you to decide what to do about them. And remember, if you are considering relocation at any point – even in retirement – it is better to move sooner than later. This gives you more time to assimilate to new surroundings and make good connections (family, friends, doctors, social activities) to accompany you throughout retirement.
Invest Smartly
It’s a good idea to work with an experienced retirement financial planner who will take the time to understand your needs and objectives and make appropriate recommendations. Tip: To be assured of objective advice, consider hiring an advisor who charges by the hour rather than one who earns income via sales commissions.
Bear in mind that investing smartly can include a lot of different strategies. It could mean diversifying a current stock-dominant portfolio to include more bonds and cash – but adding a few well-researched, aggressive stocks for high-growth potential. It could mean moving a portfolio laden with high expenses to less expensive options, such as exchange-traded funds. At some point, your advisor will likely recommend transitioning your portfolio to more conservative holdings for the duration of your retirement.
And of course, use this time before retirement to max out your retirement plan contributions: In 2024, up to $23,000 + $7,500 catch-up (age 50 and older) for employer plans; up to $7,000 for a traditional and/or Roth IRA (combined total) + $1,000 catch-up.
Consolidate Your Accounts
Plan to have your accounts consolidated by the time you retire. It will be a lot easier for you (and eventually, your power of attorney and estate executor) to manage your finances if they are all in one or two places, such as a bank and/or an investment portfolio custodian.
Auto Pilot
Note that many retirement planners recommend you put your financial life on autopilot at some point in your 70s based on neurological studies that show decreased cognitive functioning as we age. But honestly, there is no reason why you shouldn’t start earlier.
Thanks to today’s technology, our financial lives are made easier no matter what age we are. We can program our bills to be paid automatically each month. We can balance our checkbook and check our credit card, savings, and investment balances online. We can have money sent to us (free of charge) via direct deposit, Venmo, and Zelle. We can schedule automatic investments, conduct buy and sell trades online, and have distributions transferred directly into our accounts.
All the methods of putting finances on autopilot that will benefit you in retirement will also benefit you right now. So, if you’re not using them yet, learn them and stay up-to-date with new technology so it won’t be intimidating as you get older. And as always, find a retirement planner who you trust to guide you in this process.
Part 4: Putting Together a Health Plan
Planning for healthcare in retirement is a tricky business. Some hardcore smokers live past 100, while some hardcore exercise and fitness gurus drop dead in their sixties. You just don’t know – which is why you need a plan.
Medicare
Once you turn 65, Medicare is available to most Americans. The problem is deciding what type of Medicare plan to purchase. Here is an overview:
Medicare Part A – This plan covers hospital stays, skilled nursing, hospice and some home health services. It is free for eligible beneficiaries but caps some benefit coverage and requires a deductible for each inpatient hospital stay. When a hospital stay is longer than 60 days, you’re required to pay a per-day rate – and that can add up.
Medicare Part B – This plan does charge a premium, and you have to buy it in concert with Part A. Part B covers doctor visits, preventive care, screenings, treatments, and medical equipment. It does not cover dental, vision, or hearing care and only pays for procedures deemed medically necessary. This plan also features a much lower deductible than Part A, but beneficiaries are responsible for 20 percent of covered services after the deductible.
Collectively, Parts A and B are what’s known as Original Medicare.
Medicare Part C – This plan is more commonly known as Medicare Advantage (MA). It is a paid alternative that combines coverage from Part A and B, plus offers add-on options for drug coverage, dental, vision, long-term care, etc. Plans vary significantly by insurer and may include any combination of deductibles, copayments, and coinsurance.
Medicare Part D – This plan offers coverage for prescription drugs. It charges a premium determined by your income, and deductibles, copayments, and coinsurance vary by plan. You have the option to purchase a standalone Part D plan when you enroll in Original Medicare.
Medigap – Also known as a Medicare Supplement Plan, this policy is a good idea whether you go for Original Medicare or an MA plan. That’s because it offers coverage for a lot of the gaps in those plans that generate high out-of-pocket expenses, including deductibles and coinsurance.
Long-Term Care
Among Americans who live past age 64, more than two out of three (70 percent) will at some point need long-term care. Whether you hire paid caregivers or move into a long-term care (LTC) residence, the cost of services currently averages between $60,000 and $100,000 a year in the United States. One of the biggest determinants of cost depends on whether you can get by with limited hours of help a day or need full 24-hour care. Note that for those with mobility issues (i.e., they cannot get to and from the toilet by themselves), 24-hour care is more likely.
Long-term care insurance (LTCi) can help you pay for this type of care so that you don’t deplete your savings quickly. This is especially important for couples, in which one spouse may need to enter an LTC residence while the other lives at home, with all the expenses that it entails.
The best time to buy LTC insurance is while you’re still healthy, as it is medically underwritten. The “sweet spot” is around age 55, but anytime in your mid-50s to early 60s is ideal. In most cases, policies are more expensive for women than men because women tend to live longer.
Caveats to Consider
- Policies typically pay out a limited daily amount, which may not cover the full cost.
- Policies typically pay out only for a limited period (e.g., 3 to 7 years)
- A policy may have a lifetime amount cap
All this is to say that you may purchase a generous LTCi policy, but if you outlive its limits, you will need to use your own money to pay for caregiving and/or rely on Medicaid when you run out of funds.
Hybrid Insurance
The biggest risk to purchasing an LTC policy is that you may never need it. Some policies offer a form of premium return, but like most insurance policies, LTCi generally uses it or loses it. To avoid this scenario, another option is to purchase a life + LTC insurance plan – also known as a hybrid policy. It provides a certain amount of life insurance upon death. However, if you need long-term care before you pass away, the policy will allow you to tap that death benefit amount to pay for it. This allows you to use the coverage either for LTC or as a life insurance payout for your beneficiaries.
Plan For These Expenses Now
While everyone is usually thinking about how to pay for household expenses, travel excursions, or a second home in retirement – they often don’t think about a health plan. As you can see, Medicare doesn’t cover everything and those expenses can add up, especially for people who live a long time.
But if you start planning long before retirement, you can contribute to an earmarked account that builds over time and uses that money to pay for medical expenses. The Health Savings Account (HSA) requires enrollment in a high-deductible health plan, whether offered by an employer or purchased on your own. Contributions made to an HSA are tax-free (which reduces taxable income), and the funds can be invested for tax-free growth in a variety of investment options. Withdrawals are also tax-free as long as they are used to pay for eligible healthcare products and services.
Note that HSA proceeds are your money, no matter what. It differs from employer-sponsored accounts such as an HRA (health reimbursement account) or an FSA (flexible savings account) because you have only a limited time to use those funds – then they revert back to the employer. In other words, you can’t access that money once you retire.
Part 5: Estate Plan
The value of an estate plan is twofold. Yes, you want to pass your assets on to heirs in a seamless and tax-efficient manner. But it is also a roadmap to help your heirs understand the full breadth of your assets, where they are located, and how they should be disseminated according to your wishes.
Two important components of your estate plan come into play before you pass away. The first is a Power of Attorney. This document appoints someone you trust – a relative, a friend or a custodial like a bank – to handle your finances on your behalf should you become incapacitated. The second is a Health Care Directive, in which you name someone to make medical decisions for you when you no longer can. To accompany this document, you also may want to complete a living will, generally a boilerplate form that lets medical providers know if you want to forgo life-saving procedures and treatments if you’re in a terminal condition, a coma or near the end of life. Also known as a DNR (do not resuscitate), this document dictates your wishes rather than placing the burden on someone else.
Write a Last Will and Testament
The more complex the estate, the more likely you will need an estate attorney to help you. However, in many cases, an individual can create a will on his own using state-provided forms. The most important thing to remember is that each state has its own requirements regarding wills, such as whether it can be handwritten or even digital and who and how it should be witnessed and possibly notarized. Every time you move to another state throughout your lifetime, you’ll need to update or replace your will to reflect your new home state’s rules.
Your will should name an executor or personal representative in charge of executing the will’s instructions. If you are not married and have minor children, you’ll need to name a guardian for them once you’re deceased. Note that while the age of majority is generally 18, this can vary by state or jurisdiction. Your will should instruct how your assets should be disseminated and to whom, including contingent beneficiaries (should your first choice die before you), and specifically name anyone whom you don’t want to receive proceeds. For example, without a will as a guide, a probate judge may decide that a step-brother should receive your assets instead of your best friend since he is technically a relative.
Be aware that the beneficiary designations on your accounts (e.g., bank, investment, insurance policies) supersede instructions in your will. For example, if you want your second wife to be the sole beneficiary of your assets but forget to change her as the beneficiary on your 401(k) account, your ex will get the payout. That’s the same for all of your accounts with a named beneficiary, so every time you remarry or experience other life-altering events, be sure to review your account beneficiaries and estate plan documents.
Also, make it easy for your executor to find the documents needed to liquidate and/or transfer assets. A simple way to do this is to keep a three-ring binder or file drawer that houses documents/statements for each of your assets, including banking and investment accounts, former and current employer retirement plans, life insurance policies, annuities, real estate property records, etc. If you have a home or property that needs to be sold with proceeds split among your heirs, you should keep records to help establish the property’s cost basis. This includes the sale price and closing expenses from when you purchased the home, as well as the cost of any major repairs or renovations (e.g., new roof, HVAC, additional rooms). When the house is sold, the amount of the sale price minus the cost basis will determine whether or not capital gains need to be paid. Note that taxes on property and investments will need to be paid before assets can be disseminated to your heirs.
Your will is designed to guide a probate judge so that your estate can be settled quickly. However, if you want your heirs to have access to your assets without being subject to probate, consider naming them as joint account owners on your bank and investment accounts as well as the deeds to your properties.
With larger or more complex estates, you might want to consider a trust. Estate planning trusts vary by the type of beneficiary, payout structure, and tax benefit. A trust avoids probate and can help minimize the tax burden on your accumulated assets. Bear in mind that there are dozens of different types of trusts for different circumstances, so it’s important to work with an experienced estate attorney to determine what works best for your situation.
Remember, your estate plan should be a living document that is reviewed and updated every few years to incorporate any new changes in your life, including marriage, children, divorce, and death.
Part 6: Looking to Legacy Planning to Address Future Needs of Family
How do you want to be remembered? People often view their legacy as a way of disseminating assets to charitable venues to be remembered as passionate and generous supporters. That is one aspect of a legacy.
But perhaps the most important legacy plan is how you want to be remembered by your family, friends and loved ones. If you do not develop an estate plan and communicate it with your loved ones, if you leave your financial accounts and investments in a state of disarray by not keeping files organized and beneficiaries updated, then you leave a huge burden behind when you pass away.
This may very well mar the fine memory your loved ones have for you. After all, having to manage a complex or messy estate over a long period of time could overwrite the previously fond memories they had for you. No one wants their legacy blemished by administrative chaos, so now is the time to get your financial house and estate plan in order. Don’t let the last memories of you be ones of aggravation and bitterness.
Repair and Strengthen Relationships
If you are estranged or have an uncomfortable relationship with someone close to you, do yourself and them a favor by rectifying the situation. This may take time, so begin the process during your pre-retirement planning phase. Remember, no one wants to die having said harsh last words or having not seen a loved one for a long time.
Make part of your plan a commitment to shore up relationships. You can start by making a list of people with whom you should contact, jotting down a few thoughts about what you want to communicate, and devising a plan for how to accomplish this. It might be a special weekend with each of your children, or inviting a long-lost sibling to take a vacation with you, or taking your spouse out to dinner and reiterating your love for one another. Remember, your legacy is about how you want to be remembered, so make some new memories to crowd out any poor ones.
First, Loved Ones; Then Philanthropy
Once your relationships are in good shape (which takes ongoing maintenance – it’s not a one-shot deal), turn your attention to your philanthropic legacy. This includes how you want to distribute your assets to both your family and the causes you care about.
The following are some key components of a legacy plan:
Wealth Transfer
Be sure that your estate plan efficiently communicates and transfers your assets to the appropriate heirs. It also should incorporate prudent tax planning so that your beneficiaries do not pay more in taxes than required. Remember, part of your legacy will be determined by how well you protect your assets, not just from taxes but also from creditors, divorce settlements, and other potential risks.
Education
Leaving a large sum to heirs can be overwhelming. It’s a good idea to help them learn about financial responsibility, wealth management and philanthropy. By helping them understand tactics about which assets to leave intact, which to transfer to other accounts and which they can liquidate for their own use – in a tax-proficient manner – is key to ensuring they’re ready to manage the legacy you pass on.
Charitable Giving
There is a range of sophisticated vehicles that allow you to maximize the long-term value of gifted assets to charitable and passion causes. For example, a donor-advised fund (DAF) enables you to donate cash or securities to a charity-sponsored fund and help direct where charitable grants are distributed. Another option is to set up a private foundation. This is a public 501(c)(3) organization that invests, manages, and distributes your donations to charities; however, this option is really only viable and cost-efficient if you have substantial assets (multi-millions) in your estate.
There are also trust vehicles designed to balance your philanthropic goals with leaving enough assets for your own living expenses and/or an inheritance for heirs. Fortunately, these also may enjoy tax benefits, such as an upfront tax deduction, removing assets from your taxable estate, or avoiding capital gains taxes on donated securities. Here are some examples:
- Charitable Lead Trust (CLT) – The charity of your choice receives trust income (fixed payment or fixed percentage) for a specified term/or your lifespan, after which the remainder goes either back to you or another trust beneficiary.
- Charitable Remainder Trust (CRT) – The trust distributes income to you or another beneficiary for a specified term or your lifespan, after which the remainder goes to a designated charity.
- Charitable Remainder Unitrust (CRUT) – The trust distributes a fixed percentage of its balance to you or a beneficiary for a specified term or your lifespan, after which the remainder goes to a designated charity.
- Charitable Remainder Annuity Trust (CRAT) – The trust distributes a fixed payment to you or a beneficiary for a specified term or your lifespan, after which the remainder goes to a designated charity.
Setting up a trust to meet a variety of goals is very complex. Be sure to work with an experienced and qualified estate planner to set this up or, again, your legacy could be tarnished if your estate is not disseminated as planned.
Part 7: Find Your Raison d’Etre
What do you consider to be your purpose in this world? Few people think about their life that way. In Japan, they call it your ikigai. In France, they refer to your raison d’etre. For Americans, that roughly translates to your purpose in life or your reason for being.
It’s easy to consider your family or even your career as your reason to live. But true embracement of the ikigai concept is more of a lifestyle, not a specific person, place or thing.
Your purpose may not even be something you’ve pursued in your adult life. Many of us follow the socially expected path: higher education, a good job, a rewarding career, marriage, home, and family. But those things are not everyone’s raison d’etre. They might wake up one morning thinking that once they’ve achieved all those goals, they will finally get the chance to do the one they’ve always wanted. What is that?
The older we get, the more we lose a spouse or life partner, siblings, or children – and those who retire no longer have work to feel fulfilled. As part of your retirement planning effort, consider life without any of those things. How would you bear it? If you outlive your career and loved ones, what would you do?
Note that your ikigai does not insulate you from bad things happening. Instead, it’s the thing you look forward to when the smoke clears: the light at the end of the tunnel. On balance, it’s the thing that helps get you through the pain and restores happiness. In fact, discovering your raison d’etre can help you better cope with stress and loss. People who pursue their ikigai tend to have better mental health, experience fewer chronic diseases, and are more likely to live longer.
Oftentimes ikigai is felt as part of a process. For example, the joy of mixing ingredients to prepare baked goods or a meal. Planting a garden. Rebuilding an engine. It can be the process of writing or painting or playing an instrument, but not necessarily finishing a novel or singing in public. It can be as simple as finding joy in daily activities, nurturing relationships or doing community service.
Another advantage to ikigai is that it can connect you with other people who share your passion, which can be very important as you grow older and more isolated. By leaning into your ikigai, you could expand your social network with connections that are meaningful and fulfilling.
For some people, their raison d’etre is spiritual. A belief and perhaps a greater connection to a higher being. They may wish to spend more time becoming involved in church activities, reading scripture that supports their religion, or even exploring other religions.
The Japanese culture believes that each individual has an inherent ikigai based on their personal values and beliefs. One way to think about it is as your philosophy on life. Since this step is a part of retirement planning, it is fortunate that you have lived long enough to have developed some philosophies on life.
For example, some people discover that family does not just consist of blood relatives. Instead, their concept of family is people who are there through good and bad times, who always show love and respect, who you can rely on. Those things might not always be true among family members who meet the traditional definition. This type of ikigai may help you recognize that the death of loved ones does not necessarily mean you lose your family. You can always build and add to your family (e.g., neighbors and friends, fostering children or pets, big brother/big sister programs).
How Do You Find Your Ikigai??
Many times, the hustle and bustle of life keeps us from finding our true purpose. We proceed as loyal soldiers down a path prescribed by society instead of pursuing things that may bring us greater happiness. There’s nothing wrong with a career and family, but there is likely something more that each of us can pursue that is personal and soul-enriching. Sometimes, you can discover your raison d’etre by exploring your passions, values, strengths, and skills. For example, ask yourself the following questions:
- When I was a child, I loved doing…
- If money didn’t matter, I would be…
- If I believed I could not fail, I would…
- I completely lose track of time when I am…
- I am most happy with who I am when I…
- I am really good at…
- If I didn’t care what others thought, I would…
- In my free time, I love to…
- If I had only six months to live, I would spend my time…
- If I were to die tomorrow, I would regret that I did not…
Consider hobbies or classes that you’ve always wanted to try or past experiences or achievements that gave you a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. Recall where you have found inspiration in the past, and pinpoint what lies at the cross-section of doing what you love and doing what you’re good at.
Remember that your reason for living is more of a journey, not a destination. Finding your ikigai may take a lifetime to discover, so don’t be afraid to try out different pursuits. In fact, your reason for being may simply be to try new things.